Five Tips to Help You Pick Your Perfect Wedding Videographer
1. Think about how you want your wedding day to be remembered
Before looking at any films, take a step back and ask yourselves a simple question. How do we want this day to feel when we look back on it?
Not just next year, but in 10, 20, or even 30 years’ time.
Do you imagine remembering the laughter between friends, the emotion in your vows, the way your grandparents smiled during the ceremony? Or do you picture something more stylised and cinematic?
There’s no right or wrong answer, but the key is alignment. Your videographer should share your values and understand why those moments matter to you. The best wedding films aren’t about perfection or performance. They’re about preserving the feeling of the day as it really was.
2. Don’t rush the decision and don’t follow trends blindly
One of the most common mistakes couples make is enquiring with the first few videographers they find on social media.
There are so many talented filmmakers out there, and it’s easy to get swept up in what looks impressive or popular. But trends come and go. What matters is staying true to yourselves.
If you want your wedding film to centre around people, your guests, your family, and the relationships that shaped you, then it’s important to choose a videographer who prioritises that at their core, rather than relying on flashy shots or creating something that doesn’t truly reflect your day.
It’s also worth thinking about how comfortable you are on camera. Some videographers are more involved and directive, while others work quietly in the background. Neither approach is wrong, but one will feel far more natural to you than the other.
If you’ve already booked your photographer, it can also help to consider whether their style aligns with the videographer’s. When both approach the day in a similar way, everything tends to feel calmer and more cohesive.
3. Look beyond the highlights and think about how your film will age
A beautiful highlight film is lovely, but it’s only part of the picture.
When choosing a wedding videographer, it’s worth watching full films and asking yourself how they’ll stand the test of time. How often do you imagine watching your wedding film? Every anniversary, or on quiet evenings years down the line?
The true value of a wedding film often reveals itself decades later.
Sadly, not everyone who shares your wedding day will always be here. Having their voices, laughter, and small, unscripted moments captured on film allows them to live on in a way photographs alone can’t. For many couples, those moments become more precious than perfectly framed couple shots.
Your wedding day is one of the very few times all the people you love are in the same place. It’s unlikely that will ever happen again, and that’s what makes preserving it so meaningful.
4. Consider how your videographer’s presence will shape the day
A videographer’s approach can have a huge impact on the atmosphere of your wedding.
Some are very hands-on, while others are intentionally discreet. An unobtrusive approach means being a spectator rather than a director, allowing moments to unfold naturally, without interruption or expectation.
This often looks like minimal equipment, letting emotional moments happen without interference, and simply being friendly, calm, and easy to be around.
When couples say to me at the end of the night, “We've hardly noticed you today!” that’s usually a sign I've done my job well as their videographer.
Because it’s hard to tell how someone works purely from their portfolio, a consultation call can be incredibly valuable. A video call, in particular, gives you a real sense of their personality, energy, and how they’ll fit into your day.
5. Trust is everything
Your wedding day is deeply personal, emotional, and fleeting. Trusting your videographer is essential.
Trust means feeling confident they’ll capture the important moments without hijacking them. It means knowing they won’t ask you or your guests to perform for the camera or recreate something that’s already passed.
Some of the most meaningful moments happen quietly. A father seeing his daughter before the ceremony, hugs during the drinks reception, laughter spilling out on the dance floor. These moments are at their best when they’re left alone.
The right videographer will protect the natural flow of your day, ensuring everyone feels relaxed and present. That’s exactly what leads to honest, emotive films you’ll treasure for years.
A Final Thought From Me
I always encourage couples to take their time when choosing their wedding videographer. Even when I speak to couples myself, I always say that what matters most to me is being the right fit for them. And if, after chatting, they feel I’m not quite the right person to capture their day, that is absolutely fine.
It’s all about finding the right fit and choosing someone who understands how you want your memories to be remembered. If you’re super happy, bubbly, and outgoing, you may feel most comfortable with a videographer who brings that same energy. If you’re drawn to something calmer, more relaxed, and unobtrusive, it’s important to find someone who works that way too.
When you’re both on the same page, the day flows naturally. You can be fully present, knowing your memories are being preserved in a way that feels honest and true to you. And when you look back on your wedding film years from now, those moments will still feel just as meaningful.
