A Calm Presence, Not a Director

The feedback I hear most often after a wedding isn’t about camera angles or equipment. It’s this:

“Thank you for being so calm. It made us feel calm. We hardly noticed you.”

And that to me, is everything. When couples tell me their guests said I was lovely but barely noticed me working, I know I’ve done my job properly. Your wedding day should never feel like a production set, it should feel like your wedding.

During the Most Important Moments

When vows are being exchanged, speeches are unfolding. When someone’s voice wobbles halfway through a sentence. That to me is not the time for direction.

I stay quiet. I don’t speak over moments. I don’t prompt reactions. I record long takes and let things breathe. I capture multiple angles where possible, especially during vows and speeches, so when couples watch it all back it feels immersive without ever feeling staged.

During hugs and congratulations, I’m anticipating rather than reacting. A small tip most people don’t realise: couples usually hug over someone’s right shoulder. So I position myself accordingly, ready to catch that expression when it lands.

It’s subtle work. But it’s thoughtful!

The Only Time I Gently Step In

The only part of the day where I’m slightly more hands-on is during couple portraits. Even then, I don’t “pose” in a rigid way. I use prompts, not instructions, for example:

“Let’s go for a walk.”
“Turn and face each other.”
“Just talk to each other for a moment.”

That’s usually enough, and the best footage happens during the in-between seconds. The laugh after the prompt, the glances at each other. The way you naturally hold hands.

If you’re a little camera-shy, that’s completely normal! Most of the couples who I work with are, but those nerves tend to fade quickly when couples realise I’m not in their face directing every movement.

Why I Keep My Setup Minimal

I’m often mistaken for a photographer, which always makes me laugh! Guests regularly ask me to take a picture of them on my camera, and I'm often having to tell them to find the photographer because I'm filming video. And honestly, I love that!

My camera is minimally rigged. A lens, a microphone. That’s it. No big rigs, no overbearing setup. Everything about it is designed to feel discreet.

The less attention I draw, the more natural the atmosphere stays. And atmosphere is everything!

Why Discreet Filming Creates Better Wedding Films

Being discreet leads to better films because you capture real moments.

• Laughter that wasn’t performed

• Tears that weren’t anticipated

• Hugs that weren’t staged

• Conversations that weren’t interrupted

When people don’t feel watched, they behave as themselves. And that’s what you’ll want to remember in ten, twenty, thirty years. Your wedding film isn’t about content. It’s about memory.

The couples who book me usually tell me they’re a little nervous about being filmed, and that they don’t want something over-produced or their day interrupted. They want to feel it again every time they watch it. My job is to protect the natural rhythm of your wedding while quietly preserving it.

If that approach resonates with you, then we’ll likely be a very good fit.